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Hope After Miscarriage
What NOT to Say to a Woman Who’s Just Miscarried
Look, there’s a lot of pressure to “say the right thing.” There’s something terrifying about grief– it feels messy, overwhelming. Like if it goes on too long, regular life will shrink in the distance to a tiny, unreachable speck on the horizon. When the terrible thing happens, you want to offer real support. You want your wife, your sister, your...
Post Partum Depression
What’s the difference between The Baby Blues and Postpartum Depression? Many women experience some kind of “Baby Blues” after giving birth, and this is not so unusual! Right after giving birth, our bodies are acclimating to different hormone levels, lack of sleep, and fatigue after the event of giving birth. It’s common for women to feel some...
Pregnancy After Loss– Rainbow Babies
Becoming pregnant after a loss can be an intense experience. One woman may welcome the pregnancy with exuberance and confidence in her body’s ability to carry to term while another is filled with ambivalence …or even breath-snatching anxiety. This is further complicated if pregnancy loss is part of a fertility narrative for the woman– repeated...
5 Signs Your Pregnancy Loss Was Traumatic
Not all women experience the loss of a pregnancy as traumatic or even as something to be grieved, per se. I didn’t realize that after my miscarriage, I was suffering from some of the classic symptoms of trauma. While it’s normal and healthy to grieve the loss of a pregnancy, if the event is experienced as a trauma, special care should be taken to...
Miscarriage Grief Strategies #1: Baby Book
Grief Strategies Grieving can feel like a chaotic mess. One minute I’m “fine”, or at least maybe treading water. The next, I am overwhelmed and sobbing. I plunge into deep black holes. Time becomes elastic. I scrap my way into coherence. I have conversations, I respond to emails. I do life. But inside grief seems to be in charge. Developing...